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26 Dec 2017 19:10 #309777 by Senan
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Thank you again, Kit, for starting this dialogue. Many great points have been raised and provided us with some specific things to focus on.

For the record, I can do a better job of #1 and #2, especially considering I HAVE been there, I CAN relate, and others have supported me during my health struggles. I'll try harder to return that compassion when I think it will be helpful.

Use your spoons wisely, my friend, and don't apologize for putting yourself first when you need to. Your contributions are always worth the wait, and I can say that you rarely leave us waiting long. :)

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26 Dec 2017 20:42 #309780 by vladucard
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I do need to point something out though and forgive me for bringing it back. We need more accountability for our actions here. It's not just a "I did it, I won't happen again" It's more of like "I did it, I realize I did this, I will work to not have it happen again and will work on bettering myself". That one issue that we had a week or so ago, there was a private chat to try to work it (amongst other issues) and the thing went nowhere. All I saw was finger pointing and one knight talking bad about another knight and his apprentice (I have a screencap of it). We need too work things out here, not just talk about it and then let it go like it never occurred. What I saw angered me so much, I left the chat and stepped away from the Temple for a day or two. My point is this: when something happens, address it, don't sugar coat it, if it can be resolved in PM, do it. As it was mentioned here, we don't need to make EVERYTHING public, y'all.

Also another big thing....what happened to our Knights? You can count the Knights that log on everyday! we need to do our best as apprentices, as novices, as members, to try and say "Hey, if these people want to remain their ranks, maybe they should show up, huh?" I see a lot of Knights that have disappeared the past few months. Every once in a while, they pop in but then they leave. The Knights are supposed to be the ones that we look up to, the ones who help lead this place....but where are they? Granted, I know we can't force people to come and log on, but come on! You worked hard to gain that title, flaunt it and do what a Knight does best!

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26 Dec 2017 21:00 #309782 by Zenchi

vladucard wrote: I do need to point something out though and forgive me for bringing it back. We need more accountability for our actions here. It's not just a "I did it, I won't happen again" It's more of like "I did it, I realize I did this, I will work to not have it happen again and will work on bettering myself". That one issue that we had a week or so ago, there was a private chat to try to work it (amongst other issues) and the thing went nowhere. All I saw was finger pointing and one knight talking bad about another knight and his apprentice (I have a screencap of it). We need too work things out here, not just talk about it and then let it go like it never occurred. What I saw angered me so much, I left the chat and stepped away from the Temple for a day or two. My point is this: when something happens, address it, don't sugar coat it, if it can be resolved in PM, do it. As it was mentioned here, we don't need to make EVERYTHING public, y'all.

Also another big thing....what happened to our Knights? You can count the Knights that log on everyday! we need to do our best as apprentices, as novices, as members, to try and say "Hey, if these people want to remain their ranks, maybe they should show up, huh?" I see a lot of Knights that have disappeared the past few months. Every once in a while, they pop in but then they leave. The Knights are supposed to be the ones that we look up to, the ones who help lead this place....but where are they? Granted, I know we can't force people to come and log on, but come on! You worked hard to gain that title, flaunt it and do what a Knight does best!


Contrary to popular opinion, I don't flaunt it (I was "assertive" before I'd ever established an apprenticeship. I don't think it's something that should be shown off, I had a problem with the rank bars under my avatar when I was advisor. With that said, I whole heartedly agree with the rest of what you have stated Vlad...

I have many times in the past attempted to make activity a requirement for Knights, and was met with rather strong opposition every time. It's something I've given up on sadly enough, I don't agree with the majority of our Knights and have even left our Skype group as a result, again. Accountability is something that looks good on paper, but just has never held up here plain n simple, as the philosophy here has always been "do what I say, not what I do" from those in charge...

My actions as of late were inexcusable, and I am genuinely making attempts to prevent my reacting in contrast to responding. Makes it especially difficult when trolls are allowed to make personal attacks on one of our own. Camaraderie is only an idea when it's convenient, every other incident it's every man for himself...

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26 Dec 2017 23:03 #309792 by Carlos.Martinez3

vladucard wrote: I do need to point something out though and forgive me for bringing it back. We need more accountability for our actions here. It's not just a "I did it, I won't happen again" It's more of like "I did it, I realize I did this, I will work to not have it happen again and will work on bettering myself". That one issue that we had a week or so ago, there was a private chat to try to work it (amongst other issues) and the thing went nowhere. All I saw was finger pointing and one knight talking bad about another knight and his apprentice (I have a screencap of it). We need too work things out here, not just talk about it and then let it go like it never occurred. What I saw angered me so much, I left the chat and stepped away from the Temple for a day or two. My point is this: when something happens, address it, don't sugar coat it, if it can be resolved in PM, do it. As it was mentioned here, we don't need to make EVERYTHING public, y'all.

Also another big thing....what happened to our Knights? You can count the Knights that log on everyday! we need to do our best as apprentices, as novices, as members, to try and say "Hey, if these people want to remain their ranks, maybe they should show up, huh?" I see a lot of Knights that have disappeared the past few months. Every once in a while, they pop in but then they leave. The Knights are supposed to be the ones that we look up to, the ones who help lead this place....but where are they? Granted, I know we can't force people to come and log on, but come on! You worked hard to gain that title, flaunt it and do what a Knight does best!


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26 Dec 2017 23:09 #309794 by rugadd
If I had any concern for this Temple it would be everyone's preoccupation with how everyone else is acting.(see what I did there? Even I am not immune!)

Concern yourself with self reflection. Never push "post" until you leave it alone and come back and read it again later. Question your motives. What do you hope to gain by posting what your about to post? Attack your own arguments. Recognize the ones fueled by bad experiences. Question what your assuming just by speaking up. Consider, always, that you are missing information. If you get good at it, you start to know what you need to know. Always give the benefit of the doubt to others...there simply is not enough information to assume malice.

If you want to call someone out, call yourself out.

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26 Dec 2017 23:17 #309796 by Arisaig
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rugadd wrote: If you want to call someone out, call yourself out.


Love this. Several times over the past 48 hours I've found myself responding very angrily... but deleting the post before hitting post. Sometimes I just see it's my own ego talking, and not myself.

Love this lil nugget of wisdom.

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26 Dec 2017 23:32 #309798 by Zenchi
"Always give the benefit of the doubt to others...there simply is not enough information to assume malice."


Words, just words...

You haven't seen how we pass policy here, you've not seen how people conduct themselves behind closed doors, I have. As always, it's not what you know, it's what you can prove, and after six years knowing people working behind the curtain (Perris, Brenna, Relish, Marta Lina) and then only to have every thing validated when making advisor....

I can prove quite a bit, I am, however honor bound not to resort to such tactics. The longer I stay, the more I come to the stark conclusion staring me in the face that I simply do not belong....

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26 Dec 2017 23:50 #309800 by vladucard
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Arisaig wrote:

rugadd wrote: If you want to call someone out, call yourself out.


Love this. Several times over the past 48 hours I've found myself responding very angrily... but deleting the post before hitting post. Sometimes I just see it's my own ego talking, and not myself.

Love this lil nugget of wisdom.


Very well said! We must be accountable for all our actions so what better way to prevent that than by not doing it in the first place? (err, I mean, the negative ones!).

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27 Dec 2017 00:07 #309802 by Senan
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You raise good points, Vlad, and part of what we are working on is a way to hold people actually accountable on both sides. A document clearly explaining updated policy is in the works.
Simple expectations for behavior will be laid out and available for all to read. Moderators, Councillors and Security Officers will be more open and required to explain their actions so that they can be reviewed or reversed if necessary. Those deemed in violation will be asked to review certain lessons or complete new ones to demonstrate that they have an understanding of what happened and why it was considered a violation.

Obviously this is a work in progress and will require some trial and error as we learn what works and what doesn't. We will also have to be patient with each other as new policy is implemented and put to actual use.

Make no mistake. There is concerted effort going on from numerous Councillors, Clergy and Knights to create a paradigm shift in this Temple. We are working toward patient and compassionate interaction on a consistent basis and firm but fair action to prevent otherwise. It will be hard and we will make mistakes, but the desire to be better is there and we agree that now is the time to put up or shut up. I realize this has all been said before (you've seen it a thousand times, and few times from my own mouth Zenchi :)), but I truly believe that there is momentum building.

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27 Dec 2017 00:08 #309803 by Atticus
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Zen, that would be a completely different situation. 1) Giving the benefit of the doubt means there is doubt. If you believe you have proved to yourself that there is malice, then there is malice. 2) The culture and community here aren't the people behind the curtain, as you refer to them. This thread is about what those of us out here can do. Only thing I care about right now is listening to ideas on how I can help make things better.

I'm sorry, man. I give too much of my heart and energy to what we do here to have people imply I'm throwing it away. But I'd be happy to talk with you more in PM, if you'd like.

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