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What would you do.
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I would put my linguistics skills to use turning the truth (or as much as I have of it) in such a way as to minimise the injury...
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Slydogstags wrote: some of you have not been around to see the old post that i was talking about with the shooting thing... but let say you have a friend and you know some thing about them let say their wife/husband was cheating on them and you know it to be true, could you tell them or would you lie and say you knew nothing. This is what I was asking about some moral issue that you knew about could you lie to some one or would you try to tell them with out hurting them. there are other things that could fall in to this as could you see a crime and just do nothing or would you jump in and help.
I would tell the person who was cheating that I knew they were cheating. I would tell them that if I was asked, I wouldn't lie about it and give them an opportunity to do it themselves.
I have told someone that their S/O was cheating on them once and it did no good for the relationship with me and the person I told until after the relationship was over. I would wait until asked, and, like I said, would tell the cheater that I knew.
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Having a part of Truth : for instance, knowing that someone's wife/husband was (cheating ?) having an extra-marital, or just a liaison ... is like having a hammer.
Honesty is an application of the Truth (no, telling the Truth and being Honest are not the same) ... say using the hammer.
Question : how do we use the tools we have ? Constructively (to build something) or destructively (to destroy something) ?
Feel free to explore unseen dimensions ................
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I think in the case you present, approaching the cheater as someone who cares about them and their family may be the best initial approach. Then step up to informing the spouse in the hopes of reconciliation. Ultimately though, it will come down to several factors. One being the individuals capacity to forgive. Another, their ability to trust. A third, the couples communication skills, and more additional factors than I can anticipate.
The reason I choose this approach is having been on the outside looking in on a relationship with this factor.It hurt and damaged both individuals extensively even before the cat was out of the bag. There is more on that I could share, but it is not my place or my story.
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