Communications Fun

Edan wrote: My go to response is 'I'm not sure'...

My habitual mind really really likes "I don't know" followed by a pause and a response... it's a space holder... bleh.

Plus, "sorry" as a way of saying "I recognize that this action/outcome/scenario isn't 100% pleasing to you"

Also bleh.

sometimes relationships have a big influence

i know that being too close to the wrong person play a major role in shifting us towards being "the person on the right"

and also i would say that "self worth" and social acuity have a lot of overlap in how they appear to an observer (hence the saying "fake it till you make it") and the idea of "dont say IM SORRY when you want to say THANK YOU" is also more socially effective

just anexample from the illustration, suggesting to someone that you are always late, especially a grumpy employer, could even put it in their head that, "yeah, you ARE always late, and why do i keep someone like that around?"

whereas expressing "i am really greatful for your patience" is easily interpreted as something like "i am a good team leader" which is a different vibe altogether and creates a more positive atmosphere for everyone

we're funny creatures and we talk ourselves into believing all kindsof silly things, often because we dont appreciate the extent to which we believe our own B.S. lol

its not good to really B.S. ourselves but i think that in moments where we can choose to see it any number of ways, the way that reaffirms our own value and willingness to grow AND WORK is almost always better than the way which reminds us of how pathetic we are, and that principle is relevant to our communications with others as well

i emphasize the WORK part because even when i screw up, the idea that i am commited to putting in the effort needed to make improvement has a very reaffirming effect on my self analysis

this was a really good find, thank you for sharing