A approach for love.

This topic is interesting to me. So much of my life has been moaning about my being single, but recently i decided to give up and let go of this desire as it has been a sourcenof so much frustration and anger for me. I leave this up to the will of the Force. Should the day come when some nice young lady crosses my path then so be it. If not, then it likely my destiny, but i let go of the desire and constant sear ch for a girlfriend and only seek friends when they ome.

I look to love if looking liking move, but no more deep will I endart mine eye than mind's strength to make it fly...

I don't pretend to know what love is for everyone,
But I can tell you what it is for me; love is knowing
all about someone, and still wanting to be with
them more than any other person, love is trusting
them enough to tell them everything about
yourself, including the things you might be
ashamed of, love is feeling comfortable and safe
with someone, but still getting weak knees when
they walk into a room and smile at you.

I think it should start within. Don't look for someone to complete you, because no one can. If you're busy focusing on what the other person can do for you, then you're not really looking for love.

Love is a gift you give others.

I honestly don't think it's conditional. I think that being intimate, being in love, is more than meeting someone, more than physical attraction and more than sex, more than a set of criteria. It is the connection between two hearts and the bond of two spirits. All the other stuff is just gravy.

I was discussing this thread last night and Ive been thinking quite a bit about the idea of criteria and "looking" specifically for someone.

The issue with an criteria is that only criteria based on mutually shared values is going to be of any use when selecting a mate, but more importantly, when we think about the criteria for a partner, what criteria are we applying to ourselves?

While im not saying its the case here, people are often more concerned with what thay want out of a relationship that what they have to give. Going out looking for someone that "fits" may not result in the best relationship because we arent paying any attention to what we may be bringing in unintentionally. I think a better place to start is not "What do I want in a partner" but "Am I someone I would want to date". I honestly believe that the person who fits will find you, when you have become the person you "are" that fits with them.... if that makes sense!