Bully ing and your ideas

How does the student tell the difference between one who bullies and one who offers a different perspective.

Sometimes antagonism is a better service than being agreeable.

Manu wrote: How does the student tell the difference between one who bullies and one who offers a different perspective.

Sometimes antagonism is a better service than being agreeable.

You can have a different opinion and still be respectful.

Is it the bully's perspective that makes them a bully, or your perspective conflicting with the bully's perspective, that makes them a bully? I feel as though in order to understand ones perspective you have to first shed your own completely, even if only for a moment to try and understand. Holding on to it can only generate more conflict.

Absolutely. Intention is probably 80% of what makes a bully. Unfortunately perception is usually how we are judged. Stepping out of our emotions and into those of another is a tough process sometimes, but very valuable.

JLSpinner wrote:

Manu wrote: How does the student tell the difference between one who bullies and one who offers a different perspective.

Sometimes antagonism is a better service than being agreeable.

You can have a different opinion and still be respectful.

Respectful is a point of view.

Manu wrote: How does the student tell the difference between one who bullies and one who offers a different perspective.

Sometimes antagonism is a better service than being agreeable.

If your felling bullied let some one know . I don't define how others feel, I only defend and attempt to create a non hostil community. Feel free to pm me or leave comments or questions here . This is NOT a thread for hypothetical situations but for real members on TOTJO with real concerns and real actions. I will defend not atack. If an offense is taken, the offended regardless of other people's opinions is offended. So many times the offend "E" is unaware the other is actually offended. Harassment is harassment when some one says it's harassment . That I will defend. That's the reason for this outreach , not for hypothetical but for actuals.
May the Force be with us .

Carlos.Martinez3 wrote:

Manu wrote: How does the student tell the difference between one who bullies and one who offers a different perspective.

Sometimes antagonism is a better service than being agreeable.

If your felling bullied let some one know . I don't define how others feel, I only defend and attempt to create a non hostil community. Feel free to pm me or leave comments or questions here . This is NOT a thread for hypothetical situations but for real members on TOTJO with real concerns and real actions. I will defend not atack. If an offense is taken, the offended regardless of other people's opinions is offended. So many times the offend "E" is unaware the other is actually offended. Harassment is harassment when some one says it's harassment . That I will defend. That's the reason for this outreach , not for hypothetical but for actuals.
May the Force be with us .

Outreach to help others cope with their feelings? All for it.

Manu wrote:

JLSpinner wrote:

Manu wrote: How does the student tell the difference between one who bullies and one who offers a different perspective.

Sometimes antagonism is a better service than being agreeable.

You can have a different opinion and still be respectful.

Respectful is a point of view.

Wrong , Respectful is an adjective ,

adjective
1.
full of, characterized by, or showing politeness or deference:
a respectful reply.

The definition is to the offended in this case . Any one offended is well ...offended . Keep this forum clear for actual questions and comments pls .
I am a Jedi, an instrument of peace;

Where there is hatred I shall bring love;
Where there is injury, pardon;
Where there is doubt, faith;
Where there is despair, hope;
Where there is darkness, light;
And where there is sadness, joy.

Peace be with y'all as you seek the Force we share or don't share , may the Force find you where you seek it .

Amyntas wrote:

Manu wrote:

JLSpinner wrote:

Manu wrote: How does the student tell the difference between one who bullies and one who offers a different perspective.

Sometimes antagonism is a better service than being agreeable.

You can have a different opinion and still be respectful.

Respectful is a point of view.

Wrong , Respectful is an adjective ,

adjective
1.
full of, characterized by, or showing politeness or deference:
a respectful reply.

I don't think he is wrong so much as trying to convey a perception. Meaning one can be as polite and respectful as they can be in a reply to another but the other can still perceive that reply as being disrespectful. It's ones perception that is reality for them not the intent of the other.