Knowing firsthand the feeling of losing a young child, my initial instinct is to say that no parent should ever have to go through the loss of a child, especially one so young. Nevertheless, it does happen and it reminds us that death can come at any time. As the natural end to life, it is the only thing we can guarantee will occur.
Though this isn't a comfort (I just have never found any comfort in the loss), it may help to get through it. Not eating or overeating are both signs of depression, and even situational depression can be long-lasting. In my own case, talking it out with someone I knew made things worse, and so I simply stopped talking about it. However, I remind myself about it each day, and it systematically desensitizes me to the pain of the loss. At least, that's what works for me.
Most people, I'm told, benefit from counseling from a professional who is trained to deal with loss. It wasn't so in my case, but I hear that most people do benefit.
