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Tips on clearing my head ??
23 Jul 2016 12:46 #249042
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I'm not suggesting sex just a pleasant experience.
Think of it as medicine. Take your medicine. Give it a try. Have a little chicken soup first.
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Rickie wrote: Go say hi to another girl you find attractive.
I'm not suggesting sex just a pleasant experience.
But I don't want to talk or other girls or guys
Think of it as medicine. Take your medicine. Give it a try. Have a little chicken soup first.
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23 Jul 2016 19:58 - 23 Jul 2016 20:05 #249057
by Yugen
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Yugen (幽玄): is said to mean “a profound, mysterious sense of the beauty of the universe… and the sad beauty of human suffering”
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Acceptance is one of the first steps before you can move on, acceptance of your emotions and of the situation.
Accept that you love her, and accept that you two "aren't". Accept both what has been and what has happened, and what is now. Otherwise it will be hard to let go and to move on
Don't feel bad or blame yourself for loving her either
It may also be easier to "clear your mind" then, at least i think so.
It will take time, so be patient. Spend time with your friends, do things you like etc.. So you'll hopefully have other things to think about
Accept that you love her, and accept that you two "aren't". Accept both what has been and what has happened, and what is now. Otherwise it will be hard to let go and to move on
Don't feel bad or blame yourself for loving her either
It may also be easier to "clear your mind" then, at least i think so.
It will take time, so be patient. Spend time with your friends, do things you like etc.. So you'll hopefully have other things to think about
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Yugen (幽玄): is said to mean “a profound, mysterious sense of the beauty of the universe… and the sad beauty of human suffering”
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23 Jul 2016 21:03 #249069
by TheDude
I've been in the same boat, Silas. Keeping this (the above teaching) in mind helped me out. I hope you resolve this more quickly than I did!
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The 16 Teachings wrote: Jedi are wary of attachments, both material and personal. The obsession over possessions and people creates the fear of losing those possessions and relationships which can cause ourselves to be trapped in a state of depression and loss.
I've been in the same boat, Silas. Keeping this (the above teaching) in mind helped me out. I hope you resolve this more quickly than I did!
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24 Jul 2016 02:51 #249095
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Ain't the monkey mind grand
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24 Jul 2016 02:55 #249096
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Try askingyyourself this when the thought returns, what is the I that is having this thought, and what is this thought? Am I different from the thought and what is mynnature and the nature of the thought.
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24 Jul 2016 03:06 #249098
by Rex
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Time really is the answer. It's easy to enjoy the time if you find someone else, but don't go full rebound.
You don't love her, you are infatuated. Love is intimacy, passion, and commitment; the passion is one sided since she obviously doesn't reciprocate your feelings.
Find someone who shares mutual attraction, then build the intimacy and commitment from that point. I've been in your same boat before, so you have my empathy.
You don't love her, you are infatuated. Love is intimacy, passion, and commitment; the passion is one sided since she obviously doesn't reciprocate your feelings.
Find someone who shares mutual attraction, then build the intimacy and commitment from that point. I've been in your same boat before, so you have my empathy.
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24 Jul 2016 08:17 #249115
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thanks guys
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