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Anger and revenge urges
Take a step back from the situation and look at it objectively. How bad is it really, in the grand scheme of things? Is this wrong worth more than your friendship to you? If not, forgive and move on. If it is, perhaps you must consider cutting a toxic ties with these people.
Of course, that is a last resort method. This wrong would have to be so extreme that you see no reason to be with them anymore, sacrificing your friendship and bond.
To regroup would also mean to gather information about the event, not just your side of the story, but theirs as well. Ask them why they did it. Be kind, be gentle. "A gentle answer turns away wrath". Don't assume their motivations, ask them, see if it was just misconstrued by you, and make the decision to forgive them or move on.
As for anger, I can say once more what I've already said. The above method works wonders in most situations.
And then for revenge, your need for revenge can be fuelled by your anger at yourself. Are you angry at yourself? Why do you feel it justified to take revenge for this?
A Jedi knows when to act and when not to. Take a step back, think, and move forward.
May the Force be with you either way you go.
You can PM if you prefer- but public discourse allows for multiple perspectives which can be good for producing wider range of plausible ideas
My heroes had the heart to lose their lives out on a limb
And all I remember is thinking, I want to be like them
If not, No problem
If yes - Are the consequences worth it?
If not, No problem
If Yes - ah, well I can't officially recommend revenge, so perhaps get some exercise, eat a healthy meal, see something new, and then reassess the situation?
If it still boils your blood after that, we can try talking it out?
I would say try to talk it out first and see what happens. If that doesn't help, perhaps the best thing to do is give each other space until you are able to speak about it without anger. It's hard, I know, I've been there, but trying to resolve any issue calmly will have better results.
Good luck and may the force guide you in these tough times.
Ghost warrior wrote: I need guidance in this matter some people close to me have really wrong me. I'm trying to let it go. I'm really needing some tips on anger.
You can always PM one of the (Ordained) Clergy. Ordained Clergy are Deacons, Priests, and Bishops here. They are people of trust and great chat partners even if you are not religious.
Inclino, Tolero, Speculum
Talking through the issue may assist in taking some of the bite out of it. This may assist: www.templeofthejediorder.org/sermons/236...ense-live-sermon-log
I and others are available via PM
The truth is something that burns. It burns off dead wood. And people don't like having the dead wood burnt off, often because they're 95 percent dead wood. - Jordan Peterson