Marriage and surnames

Normally it's a tradition for the wife to take the man's name, but that's old-fashioned and sometimes a last name does not need to be erased. My kid (on the way) is just as much part her as he is part me, so I figured he should have both names. Therefore, I took my wife's last name.

My new name is the biggest ethnic identity crisis ever: Samuel Konstantin Tarkhnishvili O'Connor. Figure that out.

A lot of people think it's unorthodox. I was just wondering if anybody else has done this.

We were going to hyphenate in form [hers]-[his].

Adder wrote: We were going to hyphenate in form [hers]-[his].

I've seen that done, but we're just too strange.

I think whatever works for each couple is whatever works.
In Korea women don't take their husbands names. Each person keeps their own.
Good for you for picking what felt right for you.

Star Forge, has your stance on antinatalism evolved?

I don't think it's as unorthodox as it used to be, though I personally intend to take my husbands name.... If he doesn't mind

First, congrats on the impending arrival!!! And congrats on the marriage! When did that happen?!

And second, what happened to you being terrified of people finding out who you actually are? Or have you decided that we're trust worthy

My wife took my name, but she added her maiden name as an extra middle name. Our two kids have it as an extra middle name as well.

We didn't want to hyphenate (where does that end? When our hyphenated kids married other hyphenated kids, do they end up with a quadruple-barrelled surname?) but we also didn't want her surname to "die out" as it's just her and her sister in their generation of her family. This works for us.

tzb wrote: We didn't want to hyphenate (where does that end?

Could leave it to them, and give's em more options to come up with a nice sounding name

I took my husbands name, even though he said I didn't have to So I went from a nice easy, vowel-filled seven character name to a consonants-riddled 13 character polish name... LOL

For me, it was a symbol of 'two becoming one'. It wasn't that I was becoming HIS in taking his name. And I took his name partly because he was the last male of his line to have it. His mother actually gave him her name instead of his dad's because she had all sisters haha. Makes filing Security Clearances a lot of fun. ("Wait, your name is this, your FIL's name is something else, and your MIL is the same as yours? Is this right?") But also because when I was a kid, I always dreamed of loving someone so much that I'd take his name. So I kept that

I did think of hyphenating it but they had enough trouble getting 13 characters on my uniform name tapes HAHahaha.

It's YOUR name. I think it's like religion. There's few wrong answers and a lot of "What is right for me?"

We kept our names the same, though we're both thinking about changing our names when we head out West.