sometimes "tough love" is the best kind and most enlightening

definitely...An update on the situation...I wrote my father a letter basically telling him that I was going to be taking some time each day for myself during which I was not to be disturbed for any reason and that my belongings were for my use and if he chose to destroy them or get rid of them he would have to reimburse me the cost of them. He's not real happy and I'm not sure if he'll go along with it but I told him if he wanted me to continue to help him that I needed these things for my own peace of mind. I also explained that I wished he would attempt to understand my beliefs as they make me who I am but that I didn't want him to "convert" or even abide by them other then to allow me to live how I see fit.

just reading along with this thread I have become very invested in your success,my father passed away 2 years ago due to pneumonia,but before he became ill he was suffering from some pretty serious dementia. My mom had to look after him for 3 years with him in pretty rough shape before we put him in a home. the point I am trying to make is that there is only so much time and effort you can put into this. the more you give the more they take.not on purpose for the most part but after a while it becomes expected. everyone needs a break and a bit of time for themselves. your Father should realize and respect this. I am not one for ultimatums but they are a great motivator sometimes. just remember you have to follow through with it. also bear in mind this is one mans opinion and i am just trying to help you in making an informed descision.
MTFBWYA

thank you...so far,it seems to be working pretty well...today,I got a couple of hours in the bedroom where my father sleeps while he was up on his computer...I was finally able to pend some much needed time in meditation instead of just contemplation.I also got a small selection of my favorite books that I got to put in the closet in my suitcase.Some of the book I chose are way of the peaceful warrior and sacred journey of the peaceful warrior by dan millman,Celestine prophecy by james redfield,my quran, a couple of various sufi books,etc...not the best selection but prolly the most useful to me at this time.Pretty much all my father aid on the books was he didn't want to see them or hear anything about them but at least it seems to be a start and much better then nothing at all.

jarin wrote:
Pretty much all my father said on the books was he didn't want to see them or hear anything about them ...

With all due respect - this sounds like good old fashioned fear to me - fear of the unknown or things outside of his control and or understanding.

Whilst I hate using quotes from StarWars - yoda's little famous line on fear say it all - and your posts have proven them

Fear leads to anger, anger leads to hate, hate leads to suffering

Now shoving the books etc under his nose isnt going to help matters - it sounds like if this is done enough - he'll convert your books to carbon _base_d fuel (burn em )

However - if you LIVE the words of the books and show him there is nothing to fear - the choppy waters will calm in time - it may take time and patience - but making waves wont help ...

Im glad you got some ME time though - sedatives are good apparently (I didnt tell you that )

MTFBWY - A

I definitely believe it is from fear that my father has been acting. And I am striving to learn from the books and live the positive lessons I glean from there and site such as this and my Sufi order's website.I hope that maybe one day it will open my father's eye and heart to the lessons I have learned.Lol,I try to avoid sedatives and other thing where I can as I have a trend to get addicted to things rather fast and I chose to control those things in my life.Although the intention behind the comment was much appreciated and I found it rather amusing.